Monday, July 17, 2017

Jul. 17th, 2017 09:03 pm
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My parents took Tanya for the weekend again. My Mom is actually bringing her back tomorrow and only because Mom has a doctor's appointment. So Bear and I had a nice, more relaxing weekend again. Or at least when we didn't stress over Olivia's rash.

On Saturday morning we took a nice long walk. We wanted to check out our local library branch and go to a few stores. Bear needed to reactivate his card and I wanted to see if they had some movies. And they did - I got Arrival, Fantastic Beasts and Moonlight. Very exciting! We watched Arrival over the weekend, and Bear copied the others to watch later, at some point.

As I was checking out different genres and shelves, I heard someone calling my name. It was Marianna's Dad, Martin. He was on his computer at one of the tables. It turns out that Marianna's Mom works at this branch and her Dad dropped her off and was hanging out. It was nice to see him - I know Marianna's family for almost 23 years now. Bear was waiting outside with the stroller, as we took turns going into the library since I don't want to take the baby inside a public place, so Martin went to meet the baby, while I watched his computer. Now, Bear did met him before a few times, mostly at Tanya and Ida's joint birthday parties and other occasions. But it has been a while and Bear didn't really remember him. So he sees this guy coming toward him with his arms out, and he thinks 'what did I do now'. And Martin doesn't tell him right away who he is but does this in a round about way, as is his humor. Pretty amusing.

On Sunday, we were mostly home. Olivia's rash was getting better all week, it was almost gone by Friday. But it was starting to get worse on Saturday. It might have been a different diaper we were using. So I started to stress about it. This morning, Bear went to work and I decided to take her to the doctor.

It was just me with no car but Google told me it would be a 33 minute walk. So I called, made an appointment and I took Olivia in her stroller. It was really hot to walk but this was necessary. And Google didn't lie. It took 34 minutes. The doctor ordered more creams for us and checked Olivia out and made me feel better. And I was also glad to have her weighed and measured. She gained about pound and a half in one month and grew an inch taller, with her head 2cm bigger. So that's good. I always worry if she's eating enough and it is nice to know that she is. We'll keep fighting this rash.

We got home after 1pm and she had a long nap in the afternoon, so the day went much quicker than usual.
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1) Do you want to get married?
"Did you want to get married?"


When I was growing up, marriage was a natural assumption. In former Soviet Union people married young (My parents married at just under 22), and if a woman was unmarried by 25, she was thought of as old maid. So I just assumed marriage was the path. I never thought about weddings though. They were nice but nowhere a 'perfect day'.

My cousin Katya, who is 8.5 years older than me was an unusual case that did showed an alternative. After she broke up with her boyfriend in medical school, she pretty much declared her intention not to get married. She had her son by herself at 29 and never married. But despite that example, I still assumed I would marry.

I met Bear in college when we were 18 (we met the second day and we're dating pretty much a week later). When we met I didn't think of marriage, of course. But we just kept dating and proved very compatible. Three years later, when I was 21 and just graduated college, I was visiting Belarus, and there I really thought for the first time and long term and marriage. And then I decided that, yes, I do see my future with Bear. It would be another year before my friend 's Mom prompted a conversation between us and Bear and I agreed we were on the marriage path. But it would be ten more years before we would actually marry.

I went to grad school, we were busy and Bear was nervous about actual marriage part. He was committed to me but he was afraid marriage would change things or me and he didn't feel he was financially ready either. And I didn't just want to get married for the sake of it, I wanted to marry Bear. So I waited for him to get ready. I myself wasn't ready until I was 25 or so.

Finally, when we were 31, close to New Year, Bear knew that if he didn't propose, I would be finally done waiting. I didn't say it, or give him an ultimatum but he could sense it, so when we were on vacation in Montauk he proposed. We got married eight months later in August 2012.

2) Where would you like to get married?
"Where did you get married?"


We got married at a Russian restaurant Tatiana on Brighton Beach. We both wanted a small wedding, 40 guests max, and the restaurant had a beautiful private room, all fancy. Bear was sold on the idea of russiab restaurant years back whrn we went to a friend's wedding in one. Thete is just so much food! We had a rabbi and a priest do a ceremony at the restaurant.

Here's my blog recap of the wedding:
Wedding post with some pics


3) If you were getting married in a week, who would be in your wedding party?
"Who was in your wedding party?"


One thing I didn't care about is having a wedding party. We had a great wedding but there is so much I couldn't care less about. I didn't do a professional photographer because my Mom had an awesome camera, I did minimum of flowers since the room was already decorated. I didn't want a limo etc. And I didn't want my friends in matching dresses. They could wear whatever. Yeva was my maid of honor and Jeremy was Bear's best man. They signed the kettubah and were witnesses for the license. The rest of my friends could just come enjoy the party wearing whatever they wanted.

4) What would your wedding colours be?
What were your wedding colors?


I didn't care for that either. But when we ordered our cake, it was white and red, so I got a white and red bouquet and white and red flowers for main table. So I guess those were the colors.

5) Does marriage mean to you 'til death do us part?'

It does. Provided, of course, no one becomes abusive or becomes a drug addict or some other situation like that. I think both parties need to work to maintain a marriage and be respectful. But I do approach it as a lifetime commitment.

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Jul. 14th, 2017 07:26 pm
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1. Do you make your bed?

Not currently because I feed the baby sitting on it and she naps on me there during the day and it is just not practical right now. But usually I love making my bed in the morning and for it all to look neat. I could make my bed from end of February to early June and it was pretty great. Looking forward to that again.

2. The first car that was officially yours?
I never owned a car. I do have my license but I almost never drive. I don't like to.

3. Three grocery items you don't run out of?
Bread, milk, tea

4. When did you start doing your own laundry?
In college. My Mom is possessive of her machine and she'd rather do everything 'correctly' herself. So first time I did anything other than hand wash was in college.

5. If you could, would you go to High School again?
No. College, why not, but high school is too teenagery.

6. Can you parallel park in under three moves?
I think 4 moves. My driving instructor taught me a full proof method which served me well when I had to parallel park a giant van during my driving test. But, as I said above, I don't really actually drive so while I can still theoretically do it, I haven't done it for real in 16 years.

7. A job you had which people would be shocked to know you had?

I don't think I had any shocking job. I was a camp conselor at a sleepaway camp when I was 19 and day camp at 20 and 21. Since then I've taught history and writing in college and now I have an office job. Nothing really shocking at all.

8. First TV?
My parents came to visit me after a first month in college. I made sure we went to the mall so I could get a very small TV for $100, which at the time was really, really tiny. But it was good enough to watch network shows. I really didn't like being without TV then.

9. Can you drive a stick shift?
No.

10. Favorite TV show?
I don't have just one favorite and there are too many. Star Trek:TNG, Star Trek: Voyager, Buffy, Doctor Who, Farscape, Rome, Community, Friends and there are many many more. I can't pick.

11. Would you rather be too hot or cold?
Too hot. I've been too cold (in Grand Canyon, it was super freezing when we went),really didn't like being that cold.

12. If the world ends do you want to be one of the survivors?
Probably not.

13. Sweet or Salty?
Sweet.

14. Do you enjoy soaking in a nice bath?
Once in a while. Mostly I prefer a nice hot shower.

15. Do you consider yourself strong?
Not particularly.

16. Something people do, physically, that drives you crazy?
Clip their nails.

17. Something you do, physically, that you are sure drives other people crazy?
Don't know. I'm sure there's something.

18. Do you have any birthmarks?
No.

19. Favorite card game?
Durak or fool, a Russian card game. Also Uno.

20. Do you talk to yourself?
Yes. All the time. Most of the time I come up with a story and talk it out to myself as different characters.

21. Do you like doing jig-saw puzzles?
Sometimes. I got this world map one for my birthday once, that one was fun to do.

22. Would you go on a reality show?
Most likely not unless it was one of the nice ones like the Baking Show or something. Or travel show. But probably not.

23. Tea or coffee?
Tea.

24. First thing you remember wanting to be when you grew up?
A teacher. I always wanted to be a teacher. I don't think I wanted to be anything else. As I grew up, level of teaching went up to, from kid's teacher to college professor. And I got to do it for some years too. Big part of me is sad to let that go.

25. No matter how much money you have or don't have, what are you an absolute snob about?
Tea. I want nice tea from Teavana.

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